Setting Your Emotions and Intentions For The New Year

The new year is here! I'm setting emotions and intentions for the new year. Here they are:
1. To feel balance and love everyday
2. To celebrate my results and missteps
3. To grow the Soul Language community

More to come...

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3 Ways to Stop Living in Fear

On Sunday, I was honored to be asked to attend a retreat hosted by two amazing women (Christine Clifton and Terri D'Angelo).
You have heard me discuss Christine before. She is my NIA teacher (a really amazing form of exercise). What was so amazing about this experience was there was no fear in the entire room. Just imagine that for a moment. Amazing!

They are the inspiration for this week's tip.
3 Ways To Stop Living in Fear

We have all different words for fear: stress, anxiety, depression, anger, nervous, worry, and edgy (to name a few).

Fear is really tricky. It can control our lives without us even realizing what's happening. I consider FEAR good. It is a sign that something needs to be realigned in your life.
I consider fear an opportunity to realign a pattern and/or do an action differently. If you don't acknowledge and fully "feel" the sensation, it is impossible for you to make more appropriate choices for yourself.

Here are my suggestions on stopping fear.

1. Turn off the TV and Tune in to YOU -- How much TV do you watch? When do you watch it? Settling down to watch the local news as a way to relax isn't really serving your higher interest. Take that time to journal, read from an inspirational book, or listen to some inspiring music.
2. The Wake Up Call -- A sure sign that something is up in your life is you lying awake at 3:00 in the morning. If this is happening to you: 1. Take a deep breath. 2. Keep a small notepad by your bed and write down what you are feeling and thinking. 3. Start at the bottom of your feet and slowing imagine calming blue light moving up your body. There is no fourth because you are asleep.
3. Stay in Your Zone -- Find a good centering exercise and do it each morning. This will allow you to stay in your zone. If for any reason you feel out of your zone, throughout your day, repeat your exercise.

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3 Ways To Avoid Whiplash From Control

On Saturday, I over booked myself. Lunch with a friend in the city and then up to Westchester, NY to have dinner with my family. A lot of traveling in one day and on some tight timeframes.

I was late for lunch and stuck in the train. I was busy trying to control the situation by asking the train car to go faster. The train started moving, really moving. The train whipped around a corner and all the passengers (including myself) were tossed about like a beach ball at a rock concert.

Not fun! That's when I remembered how "control" can really give you a good case of whiplash. For members, who have Languages that control can play a tricky part in (Conductor, Grace Warrior, Image Maker), this tip is for you!

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We have talked about that the only thing you can control is your reaction to situations. Trying to force someone or something to happen can cause you to suffer needlessly.

The Soul Language called the Conductor is all about bringing out individual's talents. When an individual with this Soul Language is trying to control people or situations, instead of guiding and allowing people to shine, they will start barking out orders. This can alienate people.

Here are my suggestions to avoid control whiplash.

1. Check In -- I noticed that we often work to control a situation in order to deal with certain painful emotions. When you begin to feel controlling, ask yourself what are you trying to avoid. A good exercise is to write down how you feel about the word control and see what your soul has to say.
2. The Control Pattern -- Set the intention to notice the situations where your need for control pops up. Does this situation make you feel powerless? Pause and tell yourself that you are powerful and you are safe. Now, look at the situation with a new set of eyes.
3. What Are You Trying to Prove -- Sometimes we look to others to tell us who we are. A good affirmation for this is simply, stating everyday, "I know who I am."

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“There is a New Tool to Heal Relationships and It Is Called Facebook"

A number of friends and clients have said to me, “Hey, you won’t believe who contacted me through Facebook…” When this connection occurs you can feel excited and happy to be back in touch with this person or it can bring up unresolved feelings of angst and resentment.
Facebook is a social network that was created to help people connect and network. Although, intended or not it has become a tool that can help to give us closure to past relationships. How many of us have searched for old friends, ex-lovers and former business associates that we miss, needed to say some unfinished business or wanted just to see what was going on in their lives?

So the major question is, “what do you do if you are connected by someone from your past?”
I don’t know who said it but “the past is always present”. Being contacted by someone from your past with whom you have unresolved feelings gives you the chance to decide if you would like to heal that part of your past. The opportunity also gives you a chance to accept more fully who you are and can help build self-esteem. Below are some simple guidelines how to connect with someone from your past or how to handle being contacted by someone from your past.

Be Clear About What You Want
Before you begin searching for former lovers, old friends or past business associates, ask yourself why are you contacting them? What do you wish to heal or find out? Remember, the affect this relationship had on you – how you felt about yourself when interacting with this person. So if you are looking to have the final word, point out mistakes or hear from this person, “you were right;” you might want to rethink the situation before your search.
If you are unclear to how this person is going to react to your contacting them, Facebook has a feature where you can send a private message first before requesting them to be added as your friend.

There are several avenues to take in re-establishing a former relationship.
· You can determine that want ended the relationship is no longer important to you and doesn’t need to be discussed.
· You can have an open and honest conversation about the situation and both suggest how things can be resolved. In this situation, be prepared the other person may not be at this same place and unwilling to work towards resolving the conflict.
· You can start from the beginning and wipe the slate clean.
An individual that you contact might not want to or be ready to establish a connection, don’t take it personally if you are not contacted back.

Below is an exercise that I suggest you do prior to contacting a former relationship.
Find commonalities that you share. Often we focus on the differences. Write down five "things" you have/had in common. This exercise will help you to understand that we are all human. We all have faults, talents and abilities.

Friend Request
Recently, a friend of mine said that she added a friend request to her Facebook. After she did this, this friend wanted to open a line of communication. She has changed a lot since this relationship and now realizes that this former relationship wasn’t really healthy for her.
Remember, just because you are contacted you don’t need to respond. Take a moment to check in with yourself and to determine if this is a relationship that you want to establish again. Sometimes in life we pick friends for certain reasons: to work on issues we share, to expand ourselves and/or because of beliefs that we grew up with. Now you can to choose who you share your time with, even it is cyberspace.

Be Yourself
So you have reconnected with your past and you are feeling good about it. It is important that with every connection with this person that you ask yourself “Am I being myself?”
Sometimes when we reconnect to an old relationship, we have a habit of slipping into our old ways of connecting from childhood that weren’t in our best interest to begin with. One of these ways is by saying and doing things that we don’t fully believe in.

When you check in with yourself this allows you to make more conscious decisions about interacting with this individual.

Facebook is wonderful for sharing your everyday thoughts and feelings and yet, it can lead to a false sense of intimacy with others because of this way of sharing. If you are interested in establishing a relationship of depth set aside some one-on-one time whether it is by phone or in-person.

I think Facebook is an amazing tool to get started in reconnecting with people that are longer part of your intimate circle. It also gives you a chance to create a new, stronger relationship with that person.

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3 Ways to Receive

On Saturday night, I went to the founder of MetroMom, Kim DeYoung's Great Women's Gathering.

There were some amazing women at this event, including several really good friends of mine.

This tip is a direct result of that night.

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This is a time of giving. A lot of us, especially those that speak the Soul Language of the Nutrituer, main focus is of service that they sometimes forget to be on the receiving end.

In order to be a giver you MUST be a receiver. So it is important that we take time everyday to receive.

1. Ask For Help -- Sometimes, as a Warrior, I have a hard time asking for help. Each one of us has a network of people who love us who want to show it. Set the intention to be given the help you need, even if you don't know how to ask the question.

2. Listen to Your Heartbeat -- Each one of us has what we need inside of us. Sometimes we try to drown it out with logic. You are receiving information all the time on what you need and what is in your best interest. Instruct yourself that you will take the time to start listening to the beat of your heart and receive the information that you desire.

3. Be Tender -- Give to yourself, impress yourself with your own tenderness and giving abilities.

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3 Ways to Make the Deal

3 Ways to Make the Deal

One of the Axiom of Quest's that I find interesting and enjoyable is called the Negotiator. As you know, Axiom of Quest is your mission here. The Negotiator is all about "making the deal." They have the foresight to have already seen the outcome and innately know what path each party needs to take for results to be achieve.

Remember the old TV game show "Let's Make A Deal?" If the Negotiator is the game show contestant, well this individual know what they want. They know what they need to let go of in order to put them in position to ask what's behind the door. This gets them the prize and they have sealed the deal.

This Language has inspired us to come up with this week's tip:

3 Ways to Make the Deal
1. Determine What You Want -- Do you know what you want today? Here's a technique to help you find out: take a deep breathe and let it out slowly and focus on your tailbone. Quietly ask yourself what is the one thing you desire or need today. The first thought, feelings, image or sensation that pops into your mind or body is the answer.

2. Let Go -- Do you know what is preventing you from securing what you want? Here's a technique to help you find out: take a deep breathe and let it out slowing and focus on your tailbone. Quietly ask yourself what do you need to let go of in order to achieve your desire. The first thought, feeling, image or sensation that pops into your mind or body is the answer. You can "let that thing go" by setting the intention. An example of this is: I set my intention to let go of the fear around....

3. Ask -- Not many people are mind readers. If you want something, ask for it. If you have trouble asking for want you want or need, start asking for small wants and desires.

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3 Ways to Keep the Balance

3 Ways to Keep the Balance

As you may know, the Language that Rev. Tonya and I share is our Axiom of Quest (our mission). This Axiom of Quest is called the Equalizer. What that means, is that we are all about maintaining balance. When I'm out of balance, I feel as if nothing is going right. The benefits of working with Equalizers is that we can guide you to find your perfect balance in the situation that you are in. This will help you achieve your greatest desires.

Below is this week's tip on 3 Ways to Keep the Balance
1. Rest -- Stop right where you are. Stop moving. Stop doing. Rest can create balance. Pause in your life so that you can pay attention to what is preventing you from living in the NOW. Ask yourself what you need today to let go of in order to rest. Then just DO it!

2. Get Lost in Love -- Love is balance. Do something you love to do (even if it is just for a minute). Read a book, dance, or play a game with your children.

3. Laugh -- When was the last time you laughed so hard you cried or the side of your stomach hurt? Balance can be recaptured by just laughing. Set the intention today to have a good laugh. Then get ready to laugh.

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3 Ways To Heal A Relationship

We all have experienced at least one relationship that is not what we wanted.

Whether it be a parental relationship, a lover, a friend; the lingering pain can be causing you to repeat non-beneficial patterns, preventing you from finding the closeness you desire or still causing you to relive the pain.

It is the beginning of the holiday season and a great time to heal those relationships.

This is a subject that can bring forth a lot of questions for you. So please, please, please bring those questions forth. They can be submitted anonymously on my blog.


3 Ways to Heal A Relationship

The key to healing a relationship is not trying to change the other person. It is to coming into peace and alignment with want you want, what you receive and what the relationship truly is.

One of the most impactful relationships we will experience is the parental relationship. An amazing woman told me once that: a rock is hard, water is wet and your parents are just your parents.

Remember that each one of these tips are for YOU to help YOU heal. Please pass these tips on!

1. Find Commonalities -- Often we focus on the differences. Write down five "things" you have in common. This exercise will help you to understand that we are all human. We all have faults, talents and abilities.
2. Be Thankful -- Most humans learn by experience. Write down three things that you learned because of the relationship and how they have beneficially impacted your life. Read each one out loud, starting with the words "I'm thankful because I learned..."
3. Communicate -- If you are interested in moving forward in the relationship. Write down what you want and want you are willing to provide. This will help you to communicate clearly with the person. Remember, just because you clearly communicate what you want, that person might not be able to provide it. It is important if you are going to proceed in the relationship that you accept that person for who they are and not who you want them to be.

F.R.E.E. class on Know Soul's Language on December 16th at 7:00 p.m. EST. This class will focus on healing relationships.

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3 Ways to Change Your Mind

3 Ways to Change Your Mind

How we see life is up to us. It's all in your mind and your perception of things. Twice this week, someone quoted Mark Twain to me, " If you don't like the weather in New England, just wait a few minutes."

In other words this quote means to me, how you feel about something can change if you let it. All you need to do is let it be and wait a few minutes.

Below is this week's tip on 3 Ways to Change Your Mind
1. Hope -- Our bodies have no free will. If you ask your body to do something it must comply. So, just ask your body to fill you with the feelings of hope, simply by requesting, "body fill me with hope."

2. Intention -- If you set the intention to "see" a different side of a situation you will. Here's an exercise for that. Close your eyes and request to observe a different side of the situation.

3. Ask -- Sit quietly and ask yourself, what do you need to let go of to change your mind? Then ask yourself what is the first step in allowing that to happen?


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3 Ways to Give Love A Chance

3 Ways to Give Love A Chance

YOU have the choice to spend time in fear or to give LOVE a chance to work its magic. We are all under pressure, when you step into LOVE then you allow yourself to be fully supported. No matter what you decide to do; it won't be taking a chance when you do it with LOVE.

Below is this week's tip on 3 ways to give love a chance in your life:
1. Sing -- Pick a song that makes your heart leap with joy and when you are feeling under pressure, SING. Some of our favorite choices are: Come On and LOVE Me by Lenny Kravitz, Lifted by Love by K.D. Lang or Let It Be by The Beatles.

2. Feel - - Try this: here is a simple and profound exercise as a resource to remember what LOVE. feels like for you. In this exercise, we use your body's innate knowing.

Sit in a chair with your feet on the floor. Silently say, "Body -- place my body in a state of love" Feel the feeling until you feel complete. Set the intention to remember this feeling and that you can recall it anytime you need it.

3. Accept -- Set the intention before you leave your house in the morning that you are going to be received with love (without judgement) and that you will accept others with love. See how this simple intention can change your whole day.

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3 Ways to Make Yourself the Priority

3 Ways to Make Yourself the Priority
Language Tip of the Week

Acting on what you desire or need is not being selfish, it is being self-aware. Self-awareness is the first step to self-care and self-fulfillment. When you are feeling your best, you are your BEST!

Below are 3 ways to help YOU Make YOURSELF the Priority:
Stop Waiting -- Often we are waiting for someone to ask us what we need or what we desire. Start asking yourself the question every morning, "What do I need today?"

Take Time -- If you are on hold or waiting in line at the grocery store, take that time to check in with yourself to see how you are feeling. Then, simply, ask your body to refuel, recharge and regenerate.

Pack a Lunch - - How can you be making yourself a priority if you aren't taking care of your basic survival needs. Plan ahead for your basic needs by packing a lunch. Make sure your lunch is healthy, satisfying and something you enjoy eating.

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3 Ways to Stop Hiding

3 Ways to Stop Hiding

Are YOU not getting the money you deserve?
Are YOU not in a supportive relationship?
Are YOU not acknowledging how beautiful YOU are everyday?

Guess what you are hiding OUT.

Below are 3 ways to help stop hiding behind a disguise and start being the beautiful YOU.
Listen to What YOU Say -- You are your greatest champion. If you aren't singing your praises, who else will?

Stop Trying to Be One of the Crowd -- If your friends don't make you feel wonderful, then guess what? You get to go Friend Shopping. Find a new club or activity to join that you enjoy and you will find friends that honor you for who YOU are.

Spend Time With YOU -- How do you shower love on a person that you don't really know? Spend at least 15 minutes a day, just discovering who you are. You can do this by: writing for a couple of minutes in a journal, drawing, dancing, or just being quiet.

F.R.E.E. class on the Know Soul's Language LIVE OUT LOUD program. During this class you WILL learn:

How to Unveil the Power to Make More Money
Identify Your Success Essentials and How to Utilize Them In Your Life
Understand Your Ability to Create the Relationships You Want and Support You.

3 Ways to Meet Your Soul

Everyday members ask us to describe what Soul is and for tips and techniques to consciously live in Soul more.

Why would YOU want to live consciously in SOUL? The simple answer is living in SOUL is living without struggle. That's living without struggling about money, happiness, YOUR relationships.

Living consciously in YOUR soul is easily because all you need to do is be YOU. When you have a definition to place on how you express yourself using your soul (this is what the Soul Language program is all about) life is just EASIER.

Below are three ways for you to MEET your Soul.




Be Quiet- Turn off the TV, the radio, the cell phone, the Blackberry, the computer. Now, tune in to YOU. Spend 1 minute just being still, RELAX and feel what is like to be YOU!




Roll Down the Window-- Get in your car and go for a drive (with the radio off). Roll down the windows and feel the wind as it floats around your skin. Feel what is like to be ALIVE.




See The Beauty -- Beauty is all around YOU! This one is easy, just open your eyes and really see all that surrounds you from the tree outside your house to your coffee mug.




F.R.E.E. class on the Know Soul's Language LIVE OUT LOUD program. During this class you







WILL learn:
How to Unveil the Power to Make More Money
Identify Your Success Essentials and How to Utilize Them In Your Life
Understand Your Ability to Create the Relationships You Want and Support You.




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Are You Trying to Be a Square Peg in A Round Hole?

I believe most of our struggle comes from not listening to our soul's expression (or Soul Language).



Are you spending your life trying to fit into other's definition of who you are? That can be rather painful and often you will feel struck as if you are getting no where. To quote, a great resource of love and inspiration, my friend's 3 1/2 year old, "You Aren't the Boss of Me."



There is much power in that statement. No one is the "boss of you." The key is to determine what your soul is saying to YOU, accept it and that will give you the courage to be YOU every second of every day.



What I love about understanding my Soul Language definitions is that it gives me an easy blueprint to turn to when I'm feeling like a Square Peg. I understand that my Soul's expression is about balance and equalizing a situation. This gives me a strength and a power center to turn to.



Are you interested in finding out about your Soul Language definitions? We invite you to set up a F.R.E.E. 15 minute session with us! Sign up at http://www.knowsoulslanguage.net/.

3 Ways To Say NO and YES to Yourself

Are you saying YES to everything and NO to yourself?

I would never call myself a YES girl. Then, I discovered that I was saying YES to things that I really didn't want.

I started to realize this when I began accepting ME and understood that being SELF-AWARE is not being SELFISH.

So below are three ways to say YES to yourself.
Stand Outside Yourself - Before you make a decision, take a moment and see the situation from a stranger's point of view. When you see the situation, like someone watching a movie, you can release the attachment and make a decision that is in your best interest.

Determine Your Boundaries -- How do you know if the rules are being broken if you don't know the rules? So you need to determine your rules (boundaries). Write down your NOs for work and family (i.e., I will not work weekends). Now, you know the rules and you will find it easier to enforce them.

Think Before You Speak -- There is no reason why a question or favor asked of you by someone else needs to be answered right away. Take a moment to observe the situation and really determine why you are saying YES or NO. Are you saying YES because you want to be liked?

Out of fear? The time you give yourself to think and feel will give you the ability to make a decision; not a reaction.

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During this session you will learn how to select your support team, so you can get the life you have been dreaming about.

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3 Ways to Create Supportive Relationships

3 Ways to Create Supportive Relationships
Language Tip of the Week

We hear from a lot of KSL members that they feel unsupported. They feel alone, like no one understands them and in some cases that they have no one to turn to when "times are hard."

Support was one of the main reasons why we started the KSL program and work. We asked guidance on how we could find people who would support us and received the first information about Know Soul's Language.

Most people believe if this person would change then the relationship would be better, I will feel more supportive, more loved, happier. Your relationships reflect how you feel about YOU! So, you must CHOOSE SUPPORT for yourself and then you will GET the support you desire from others.

Below are three steps to get you on your way to creating supportive relationships:
Support Yourself- List all the ways you support yourself during the day. These can be anything from "I eat healthy" to "I get 8 hours of sleep a night."

Now, Really Support Yourself - Create 5 new ways to support yourself. Anything from, "Taking a New Class" to "Setting Aside 15 Minutes a Day Just for Me."

Just One Step -- Select one of those items from above and start it TODAY!

Start Creating More Supportive Relationships NOW!

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During this session you will learn how to select your support team, so you can get the life you have been dreaming about.

Tips from a Warrior -- 3 Tips to Making a Decision

One of my Soul Languages is that of the Graceful Warrior, I have written and spoken a lot about being the Graceful Warrior. When I understood that this was the language of my soul for the first time I understood, accepted and valued my warrior like nature. What are some "characteristics" of a Graceful Warrior: courage, strength, forceful, strategic, action oriented, unyielding, never leaves a man down, loyal, compassionate, to name a few.

If it the Graceful Warrior isn't your soul language, you can still tap into the courage and strength of the warrior to achieve certain goals that you need or desire.

Below are tips to from one Graceful warrior on how to make a decision:

• Don't Go Off Half Cocked -- Unlike the images in the movies, a Graceful Warrior doesn't react without knowing as much information as possible. How can you make a accurate decision without knowing as much as you can about a situation.
• Trust your gut -- You gotten all of the information and people are telling you to go one way and yet in your gut you know the best answer FOR YOU is to go the other way -- go the other way. Within you is an innate knowing of what is in your best interest, TRUST IT.
• It's Not Personal -- When you understand that everyone is bringing their own story to the situation then how can you take things personality? When your feelings aren't hurt, you are able to access a situation more clearly.

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How To Be Powerful and Get What You Want

How to Be Powerful and Get What You Want

Language Tip of the Week

When you are experiencing fear about an issue it is very easy for you to feel powerless. Fear numbs the mind to hearing important information, asking questions and seeing a situation clearly. One of the major "fear factors" that can cause people to feel powerless is MONEY.

Money to many of us is about safety and survival. Here's how you can be powerful and get what you want during a "fear factor" moment.

Take Deep Breath - Holding your breath, will increase the fear in your body.

Know Your Value - List all the ways that you bring value to the world. Feel that you have the right to be abundant.

State the Truth - Take another deep breath and state to yourself the truth, that I AM POWERFUL.

Now, its time for you to BE POWERFUL!
Sign up for a F.R.E.E. 15 minute session with Soul Language experts Intuitive Healer, Jennifer Urezzio and Reverend Tonya Joy.
During this session you will learn to easily be your POWERFUL self, so you can get the life you have been dreaming about.
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Consciously Using Language - I AM

Consciously Using Language

What are you truly saying with I AM. A little background in regards to, "It stems from the Hebrew conception of monotheism that God exists within each and everyone and by himself, the uncreated Creator who does not depend on anything or anyone; therefore I am who I am..."*

So what are you saying with I AM. To me it is a declaration of total existence in your body and who you are. So what are we saying when we say:
I am hungry
I am sad
I am desperate

To me, we are saying that it is totally of who we are and that could never change. When I hear clients and program participant say the I AM, I ask the question, "Really is that who you are?"

Consciously Using Language means that I consciously use I am feeling...

I am feeling hungry
I am feeling sad
I am feeling desperate.

Start learning how to consciously use your language of soul.

Jennifer Urezzio
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*From Wikipedia