Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Setting Your Emotions and Intentions For The New Year

The new year is here! I'm setting emotions and intentions for the new year. Here they are:
1. To feel balance and love everyday
2. To celebrate my results and missteps
3. To grow the Soul Language community

More to come...

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Monday, December 22, 2008

3 Ways to Stop Living in Fear

On Sunday, I was honored to be asked to attend a retreat hosted by two amazing women (Christine Clifton and Terri D'Angelo).
You have heard me discuss Christine before. She is my NIA teacher (a really amazing form of exercise). What was so amazing about this experience was there was no fear in the entire room. Just imagine that for a moment. Amazing!

They are the inspiration for this week's tip.
3 Ways To Stop Living in Fear

We have all different words for fear: stress, anxiety, depression, anger, nervous, worry, and edgy (to name a few).

Fear is really tricky. It can control our lives without us even realizing what's happening. I consider FEAR good. It is a sign that something needs to be realigned in your life.
I consider fear an opportunity to realign a pattern and/or do an action differently. If you don't acknowledge and fully "feel" the sensation, it is impossible for you to make more appropriate choices for yourself.

Here are my suggestions on stopping fear.

1. Turn off the TV and Tune in to YOU -- How much TV do you watch? When do you watch it? Settling down to watch the local news as a way to relax isn't really serving your higher interest. Take that time to journal, read from an inspirational book, or listen to some inspiring music.
2. The Wake Up Call -- A sure sign that something is up in your life is you lying awake at 3:00 in the morning. If this is happening to you: 1. Take a deep breath. 2. Keep a small notepad by your bed and write down what you are feeling and thinking. 3. Start at the bottom of your feet and slowing imagine calming blue light moving up your body. There is no fourth because you are asleep.
3. Stay in Your Zone -- Find a good centering exercise and do it each morning. This will allow you to stay in your zone. If for any reason you feel out of your zone, throughout your day, repeat your exercise.

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Friday, December 19, 2008

3 Ways To Avoid Whiplash From Control

On Saturday, I over booked myself. Lunch with a friend in the city and then up to Westchester, NY to have dinner with my family. A lot of traveling in one day and on some tight timeframes.

I was late for lunch and stuck in the train. I was busy trying to control the situation by asking the train car to go faster. The train started moving, really moving. The train whipped around a corner and all the passengers (including myself) were tossed about like a beach ball at a rock concert.

Not fun! That's when I remembered how "control" can really give you a good case of whiplash. For members, who have Languages that control can play a tricky part in (Conductor, Grace Warrior, Image Maker), this tip is for you!

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We have talked about that the only thing you can control is your reaction to situations. Trying to force someone or something to happen can cause you to suffer needlessly.

The Soul Language called the Conductor is all about bringing out individual's talents. When an individual with this Soul Language is trying to control people or situations, instead of guiding and allowing people to shine, they will start barking out orders. This can alienate people.

Here are my suggestions to avoid control whiplash.

1. Check In -- I noticed that we often work to control a situation in order to deal with certain painful emotions. When you begin to feel controlling, ask yourself what are you trying to avoid. A good exercise is to write down how you feel about the word control and see what your soul has to say.
2. The Control Pattern -- Set the intention to notice the situations where your need for control pops up. Does this situation make you feel powerless? Pause and tell yourself that you are powerful and you are safe. Now, look at the situation with a new set of eyes.
3. What Are You Trying to Prove -- Sometimes we look to others to tell us who we are. A good affirmation for this is simply, stating everyday, "I know who I am."


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Wednesday, December 10, 2008

“There is a New Tool to Heal Relationships and It Is Called Facebook"

A number of friends and clients have said to me, “Hey, you won’t believe who contacted me through Facebook…” When this connection occurs you can feel excited and happy to be back in touch with this person or it can bring up unresolved feelings of angst and resentment.
Facebook is a social network that was created to help people connect and network. Although, intended or not it has become a tool that can help to give us closure to past relationships. How many of us have searched for old friends, ex-lovers and former business associates that we miss, needed to say some unfinished business or wanted just to see what was going on in their lives?

So the major question is, “what do you do if you are connected by someone from your past?”
I don’t know who said it but “the past is always present”. Being contacted by someone from your past with whom you have unresolved feelings gives you the chance to decide if you would like to heal that part of your past. The opportunity also gives you a chance to accept more fully who you are and can help build self-esteem. Below are some simple guidelines how to connect with someone from your past or how to handle being contacted by someone from your past.

Be Clear About What You Want
Before you begin searching for former lovers, old friends or past business associates, ask yourself why are you contacting them? What do you wish to heal or find out? Remember, the affect this relationship had on you – how you felt about yourself when interacting with this person. So if you are looking to have the final word, point out mistakes or hear from this person, “you were right;” you might want to rethink the situation before your search.
If you are unclear to how this person is going to react to your contacting them, Facebook has a feature where you can send a private message first before requesting them to be added as your friend.

There are several avenues to take in re-establishing a former relationship.
· You can determine that want ended the relationship is no longer important to you and doesn’t need to be discussed.
· You can have an open and honest conversation about the situation and both suggest how things can be resolved. In this situation, be prepared the other person may not be at this same place and unwilling to work towards resolving the conflict.
· You can start from the beginning and wipe the slate clean.
An individual that you contact might not want to or be ready to establish a connection, don’t take it personally if you are not contacted back.

Below is an exercise that I suggest you do prior to contacting a former relationship.
Find commonalities that you share. Often we focus on the differences. Write down five "things" you have/had in common. This exercise will help you to understand that we are all human. We all have faults, talents and abilities.

Friend Request
Recently, a friend of mine said that she added a friend request to her Facebook. After she did this, this friend wanted to open a line of communication. She has changed a lot since this relationship and now realizes that this former relationship wasn’t really healthy for her.
Remember, just because you are contacted you don’t need to respond. Take a moment to check in with yourself and to determine if this is a relationship that you want to establish again. Sometimes in life we pick friends for certain reasons: to work on issues we share, to expand ourselves and/or because of beliefs that we grew up with. Now you can to choose who you share your time with, even it is cyberspace.

Be Yourself
So you have reconnected with your past and you are feeling good about it. It is important that with every connection with this person that you ask yourself “Am I being myself?”
Sometimes when we reconnect to an old relationship, we have a habit of slipping into our old ways of connecting from childhood that weren’t in our best interest to begin with. One of these ways is by saying and doing things that we don’t fully believe in.

When you check in with yourself this allows you to make more conscious decisions about interacting with this individual.

Facebook is wonderful for sharing your everyday thoughts and feelings and yet, it can lead to a false sense of intimacy with others because of this way of sharing. If you are interested in establishing a relationship of depth set aside some one-on-one time whether it is by phone or in-person.

I think Facebook is an amazing tool to get started in reconnecting with people that are longer part of your intimate circle. It also gives you a chance to create a new, stronger relationship with that person.

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Monday, December 8, 2008

3 Ways to Receive

On Saturday night, I went to the founder of MetroMom, Kim DeYoung's Great Women's Gathering.

There were some amazing women at this event, including several really good friends of mine.

This tip is a direct result of that night.

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This is a time of giving. A lot of us, especially those that speak the Soul Language of the Nutrituer, main focus is of service that they sometimes forget to be on the receiving end.

In order to be a giver you MUST be a receiver. So it is important that we take time everyday to receive.

1. Ask For Help -- Sometimes, as a Warrior, I have a hard time asking for help. Each one of us has a network of people who love us who want to show it. Set the intention to be given the help you need, even if you don't know how to ask the question.

2. Listen to Your Heartbeat -- Each one of us has what we need inside of us. Sometimes we try to drown it out with logic. You are receiving information all the time on what you need and what is in your best interest. Instruct yourself that you will take the time to start listening to the beat of your heart and receive the information that you desire.

3. Be Tender -- Give to yourself, impress yourself with your own tenderness and giving abilities.

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Friday, December 5, 2008

3 Ways to Make the Deal

3 Ways to Make the Deal

One of the Axiom of Quest's that I find interesting and enjoyable is called the Negotiator. As you know, Axiom of Quest is your mission here. The Negotiator is all about "making the deal." They have the foresight to have already seen the outcome and innately know what path each party needs to take for results to be achieve.

Remember the old TV game show "Let's Make A Deal?" If the Negotiator is the game show contestant, well this individual know what they want. They know what they need to let go of in order to put them in position to ask what's behind the door. This gets them the prize and they have sealed the deal.

This Language has inspired us to come up with this week's tip:

3 Ways to Make the Deal
1. Determine What You Want -- Do you know what you want today? Here's a technique to help you find out: take a deep breathe and let it out slowly and focus on your tailbone. Quietly ask yourself what is the one thing you desire or need today. The first thought, feelings, image or sensation that pops into your mind or body is the answer.

2. Let Go -- Do you know what is preventing you from securing what you want? Here's a technique to help you find out: take a deep breathe and let it out slowing and focus on your tailbone. Quietly ask yourself what do you need to let go of in order to achieve your desire. The first thought, feeling, image or sensation that pops into your mind or body is the answer. You can "let that thing go" by setting the intention. An example of this is: I set my intention to let go of the fear around....

3. Ask -- Not many people are mind readers. If you want something, ask for it. If you have trouble asking for want you want or need, start asking for small wants and desires.

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Wednesday, December 3, 2008

3 Ways to Keep the Balance

3 Ways to Keep the Balance

As you may know, the Language that Rev. Tonya and I share is our Axiom of Quest (our mission). This Axiom of Quest is called the Equalizer. What that means, is that we are all about maintaining balance. When I'm out of balance, I feel as if nothing is going right. The benefits of working with Equalizers is that we can guide you to find your perfect balance in the situation that you are in. This will help you achieve your greatest desires.

Below is this week's tip on 3 Ways to Keep the Balance
1. Rest -- Stop right where you are. Stop moving. Stop doing. Rest can create balance. Pause in your life so that you can pay attention to what is preventing you from living in the NOW. Ask yourself what you need today to let go of in order to rest. Then just DO it!

2. Get Lost in Love -- Love is balance. Do something you love to do (even if it is just for a minute). Read a book, dance, or play a game with your children.

3. Laugh -- When was the last time you laughed so hard you cried or the side of your stomach hurt? Balance can be recaptured by just laughing. Set the intention today to have a good laugh. Then get ready to laugh.

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3 Ways To Heal A Relationship

We all have experienced at least one relationship that is not what we wanted.

Whether it be a parental relationship, a lover, a friend; the lingering pain can be causing you to repeat non-beneficial patterns, preventing you from finding the closeness you desire or still causing you to relive the pain.

It is the beginning of the holiday season and a great time to heal those relationships.

This is a subject that can bring forth a lot of questions for you. So please, please, please bring those questions forth. They can be submitted anonymously on my blog.


3 Ways to Heal A Relationship

The key to healing a relationship is not trying to change the other person. It is to coming into peace and alignment with want you want, what you receive and what the relationship truly is.

One of the most impactful relationships we will experience is the parental relationship. An amazing woman told me once that: a rock is hard, water is wet and your parents are just your parents.

Remember that each one of these tips are for YOU to help YOU heal. Please pass these tips on!

1. Find Commonalities -- Often we focus on the differences. Write down five "things" you have in common. This exercise will help you to understand that we are all human. We all have faults, talents and abilities.
2. Be Thankful -- Most humans learn by experience. Write down three things that you learned because of the relationship and how they have beneficially impacted your life. Read each one out loud, starting with the words "I'm thankful because I learned..."
3. Communicate -- If you are interested in moving forward in the relationship. Write down what you want and want you are willing to provide. This will help you to communicate clearly with the person. Remember, just because you clearly communicate what you want, that person might not be able to provide it. It is important if you are going to proceed in the relationship that you accept that person for who they are and not who you want them to be.

F.R.E.E. class on Know Soul's Language on December 16th at 7:00 p.m. EST. This class will focus on healing relationships.

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Monday, December 1, 2008

3 Ways to Change Your Mind

3 Ways to Change Your Mind

How we see life is up to us. It's all in your mind and your perception of things. Twice this week, someone quoted Mark Twain to me, " If you don't like the weather in New England, just wait a few minutes."

In other words this quote means to me, how you feel about something can change if you let it. All you need to do is let it be and wait a few minutes.

Below is this week's tip on 3 Ways to Change Your Mind
1. Hope -- Our bodies have no free will. If you ask your body to do something it must comply. So, just ask your body to fill you with the feelings of hope, simply by requesting, "body fill me with hope."

2. Intention -- If you set the intention to "see" a different side of a situation you will. Here's an exercise for that. Close your eyes and request to observe a different side of the situation.

3. Ask -- Sit quietly and ask yourself, what do you need to let go of to change your mind? Then ask yourself what is the first step in allowing that to happen?


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